In my personal life, I’m a singer, and rock-style music is my passion. As I’ve been working to take my abilities to the next level, I’ve realized that there are a number of similarities between managing adult Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and singing rock music. You don’t need to be a rock singer to appreciate the similarities.
Whatever it is that really sparks your passion in life, you can find parallels between that passion and managing your ADD. Take my example of singing rock music, and consider this:
You Gotta Practice.
Even the most skilled and talented rock singers–the Robert Plants and Ann Wilsons of the world–have to keep their voices well tuned by using them on a regular basis. Without practice, a singer’s skills and raw talent won’t disappear, but will be a lot harder to access when needed.
Similarly, even the most successful adults with ADD have to practice their ADD management skills. Time management, organization and focus, for example, are learned skills that become rusty when you don’t use them on a regular basis.
It’s All About Breathing.
Your breath supports your voice when you’re singing. If you’re not breathing regularly and deeply, your body becomes tense. And tense muscles quickly prevent a singer from performing well and sounding good.
When you’re managing your ADD, tension is one of your worst enemies. A stressed mind produces a stressed body and vice versa. That stress quickly leads to ADD overwhelm, and it’s nearly impossible to manage ADD in the state of overwhelm. One of the best ways to keep stress and tension at bay is to make a point of breathing deeply and regularly.
You Gotta Believe In Yourself.
Singing is a performance art. If you’re going to be a successful singer, you have to get over your nervousness and just go for it. (This is the stage I’m in right now!) If you believe you can do it, then you will find a way. If you believe you can’t do it, then you won’t do it.
You also have to believe that you can manage your ADD and take your life to the next level. If you tell yourself that you’ll never be organized, then you won’t be. If you give up on yourself easily, you’ll never allow yourself the opportunity to be successful. When you’re ready to tackle a challenge or learn a new skill, the first step is believing that you can do it.
Combining Skill With Personal Style Leads To Success.
One of the things I love about rock music is that the emphasis is placed more on emotion than on skill. A rock singer definitely needs to learn about their voice and how to use it properly, but there is a lot of room for personal style. In fact, that personal style is what often draws a person to a particular singer.
This is exactly the way I describe effective ADD management. There are some base level skills and systems to be learned, and the rest is all about personal style. When you learn to manage your ADD, WHAT works for you is not nearly as important as the fact that it DOES work.
The great thing about drawing these comparisons between two seemingly different subjects is that it allows you the opportunity to simplify the challenges you experience and ground them in something that really excites you. You can continually remind yourself, “Oh yeah, managing my time is just like singing. If I’m stressed out and nervous then I’m not going to do it well! I need to be calm, breathe, and believe that I can handle this to-do list.”
I encourage you to take a stab at this exercise and see if you can draw some helpful comparisons between managing your ADD and something else that you’re really interested in.
